Breaking Up Is Hard to Do

Breaking up is hard.

If you’ve ever been through one, it seems like there’s never a right time to say goodbye, but in the case of comparison, there is.

Maybe you’ve been there…scrolling through social media, measuring your personal success to someone else’s. Here’s the thing, comparison is a confidence killer—and it’s time to break up with it once and for all.

So how do we break up with comparison and start this new journey?

Change the Narrative: Success is Personal

Realizing this is a game-changer. There’s only one you, so it’s time to fully embrace what it means to be you! First, spend some time alone. Even if it’s 30 minutes a day, when you know yourself better, you’ll be able to appreciate your own qualities and get a glimpse of what other people see in you as well. If you’re always comparing your progress to someone else’s, you’re ignoring the things that make your journey unique. Your personal experiences are also shaping your journey and your individual story.

Focus Through Distractions

Comparison does its best work in chaos and distractions. The more we engage in external noise, the more off-centered we become. Understand this: Some people in your life may thrive in distractions, be aware of this first and foremost. I’m sure you’ve heard how important it is to surround yourself with individuals who uplift you, make you stronger, and push you to be a better person. If you’re constantly around people who you are negative, chaotic, and toxic, there’s a high chance you too will take on some of these qualities. Those that are confident have clarity, and clarity comes from your ability to focus. Stay engaged in what you’re doing and how to do it the right way. Some tips: Limit people or things that cause you to focus on comparison. It may be an app, or possibly a person, but have mindful reflection and reconnect with your strengths.

Breaking Up for Good

The more you know who you are an in individual, the more self-assured you will become. What are your likes? What are your dislikes? Now this is a tough one—what is distracting you? Confidence isn’t about being right all the time, it’s about being the best you. Celebrate your unique path and invest in self-awareness. Work on the skills to recognize what holds you back and what propels you forward, once you figure this out, make decisions that align with that. As hard as it may be to break up for good, embrace your new focus and know, I’m wishing you the best always.